After writing about dipping my toe back into the dating pond earlier this week, I came across the below online. It’s quite fitting for a sufferer of BPD. Some of the symptoms used to fully diagnose BPD include engaging in risky sexual behaviours. Also, our alleged inability to engage in and maintain stable relationships.
I freely admit that in the past I have probably taken a shine to the wrong person, maybe subconsciously knowing that nothing would ever come long-term from my fascination with that person at the time. I have never wanted to be a one night stand. I did have a “friend with benefits” for a while. However, after meeting Dave, post-breakdown and post-divorce I can genuinely tell you that I would really like to be in a committed relationship. I’m not interested in a fling; I’m not going to jump into bed with the first person that shows me any sort of affection. I might not necessarily know exactly what I want but I damn sure know what I DON’T want and the below sums it up perfectly for me!
If, as a BPD sufferer, you have been engaging in any risky behaviours or even just a succession of one night stands or “friends with benefits”, let me tell you right now that you are worth so much more than that. I know all too well that one of our biggest problems is our lack of self-worth and at times it does feel that if anyone shows any sort of sign of being attracted to us, we can pounce on it with everything we’ve got. Don’t do it. Somewhere out there is the right person for you. As I was once told “for every Jack, there’s a Jill”.
Living The BPD Life 